One of the most distressing events that can take place in the life of a married couple, and particularly a woman, is the inability to conceive. There are thousands of people out there who are being plagued by gynaecological problems and they either fail to fall pregnant in the first place, or when they do, they miscarry continually.
Medical science has made some amazing advances in the field of research and finding ways to bring blessing to these unfortunate women, but what a price to pay for that benefit.
I remember once coming across a little book, which covered reasons for failure to fall pregnant and the tests and investigations that could be done for both partners to help find out the reasons for this.
To me it was like torture. Admittedly I am a weakling when it comes to medicine being practiced on me. But I wondered whether it was worth going through that hell just to be able to have a baby. I am by no means condemning medical science, and if you feel you want help from them and can follow through, by all means do it.
If you are someone who is in this category of being childless I have good news for you. Firstly, you do not need to continue without the blessing of your heart’s desire. And you do not need to undergo costly and stressful medical tests, because the Lord is your healer and is well able to change your body.
There is nothing too hard for the Lord. If He can raise people from the dead, surely He can rearrange you physically and bring a blessing on your body, which will make it possible to be blessed with children?
God Wants You To Be Fruitful
One of the first points I would like to clarify in this article is this. God wants you to have children. I have heard some people, and in fact been told myself by people, that God maybe didn’t want me to have a child; that there was a reason for being infertile.
This is a load of nonsense and a lie from Satan to rob you of a wonderful blessing in your life. One of the very first commands ever recorded in the Bible is in Genesis 1:28. It says this.
And God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.
The Lord wants you to be fruitful and multiply. It is interesting to notice that He blessed Adam and Eve first, then said, “Be fruitful and multiply.”
Conception, pregnancy and childbirth are a sign of the blessing of the Lord. In early Bible times children were a sign of blessing. The more of them you had the better you were considered to be blessed, because they carried your family heritage and blessing with them down through the generations.
Today I guess things have changed a little, in that things are much more expensive and our lifestyles are completely different from then.
But the truth is still the same. Children are a blessing from the Lord and He wants you to have them, even if it is only one or two in a family, as opposed to 10 or 12 like they had in the old times.
If you have read through the first five books of the Old Testament and later on through the history books, you will see time and time again how people cried out to the Lord for children and He blessed them with their desires. Genesis 25:21 says,
And Isaac pleaded with the LORD [Yahweh] for his wife, because she [was] barren: and the LORD [Yahweh] answered him, and Rebekah his wife conceived.
You can see from this verse that it was considered a disaster in early Bible times if you were not able to bear children. This is one of many that you can find if you do a search. There are so many references to people crying out to the Lord for children and He honored them with their hearts desire.
You are no different to those early Bible characters. The Lord wants to fulfill your desire as much as He wanted to fulfill theirs. Banish the lie that the Lord does not want you to have a child because you may have problems. It is not from Him. It is from Satan.
The Lord gave many wonderful promises to the children of Israel concerning blessing and children. They encompassed pregnancy as well. Some of these are in Exodus 23:26 which says,
No one shall suffer miscarriage nor be barren, in your land: the number of your days I will fulfill.
And then Deuteronomy 7:14 says,
You shall be blessed above all people: there shall not be male or female barren among you, or among your cattle.
You have a greater potential for blessing now because you are part of the New Covenant, and the New Covenant is better than the Old one. You need to stand on these promises and embrace them as your own if you are desiring children from the Lord.
Pregnancy and the Abortion Issue
When a woman falls pregnant it is a very special time for her, and one in which she should be nurtured, because something wonderful is taking place inside of her. I love David’s description in Psalm 139:14 to 16 where he says,
I will praise you; for I am fearfully [and] wonderfully made: marvelous [are] your works; and my soul knows it very well.
My body was not hidden from you, when I was made in secret, [and] embroided in the lower parts of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed embryo; and in your book the days predetermined for me were recorded, before one of them existed.
What a beautiful way of describing the wonders of creation. There is a special little baby being developed in the security of the womb and basically the Lord is the only one who knows exactly what it will look like.
It takes place for the most part in secret, except nowadays of course there is the wonder of ultrasound scanning where you can take a little peak at what is going on. This is a part of medicine that I did not mind being subjected to.
I remember the day when I was two months pregnant and the gynaecologist decided to do a scan to see that everything was okay. I was 32 when I fell pregnant for the first time, and there were some more risks than the average pregnancy because of my age.
I remember the excitement at seeing the little sac that contained my son. Then as he scanned a little deeper I saw his heartbeat on the screen. I will never forget how excited I was to see that.
The scene changed again and I saw him in my womb. He was lying upside down with only his back visible and all his limbs were unseen in the front. He looked like a tiny little frog, probably less than an inch in length, but in spite of his minute size he was totally formed.
I cherished that moment for a long time afterwards. And I began to think about how heartless people are who can take the beauty of the Lord’s creation and throw it away just because they do not want it.
Having seen what I did, and having to battle for almost a year to fall pregnant, my heart cried out when I thought of how many people do not understand or care about the awesomeness of creation. There is little regard or respect for it from many who sleep around carelessly and then think they can simply wipe out any life that results in a few easy steps.
I do not approve of abortion because it is murdering a precious potential life that the Lord has made. However, I do not condemn you if you have had an abortion, either because you were forced to do it without wanting to, or even if you did it purposefully. The Lord will not condemn you, but forgives each one freely.
I understand that sometimes it is the best remedy for medical problems. If you have been in this position in the past, I want you to know the Lord has washed it with His blood and you do not need to remain childless.
If you feel that you have sinned and this is preventing you from becoming pregnant, you need simply confess it to the Lord and He will remove it instantly. Then tell Satan to take his lies and remove them from you, because the Lord still desires you to be blessed with children.
The Lord sees pregnancy as something beautiful, and in the early days a husband was legally allowed to do some physical harm to anyone who harmed his wife while she was pregnant. Consider this verse from Exodus 21:22 which says,
If men strive, and hurt a pregnant woman, so that her fruit depart [from her], and yet no mischief follow: he shall be surely punished, according as the woman’s husband will lay upon him; and he shall pay as the judges [determine].
I found that very interesting. The Lord allowed the husband to punish someone for hurting his pregnant wife. It was a special time and a time to be nurtured and ‘wrapped in cotton wool’. We should realize how precious a new developing life is.
Cause of Problems
Having now shared extensively on the fact that the Lord does want you to be pregnant and give birth to a healthy child, why is it that some people cannot conceive, or are plagued with problems if they do conceive?
There is only one thing I can find in Scripture to answer it. It is the word curse. There is a clear reference in the Scriptures to it being a curse. Look at Hosea 9:13 and 14. It says,
Ephraim, as I saw Tyrus, [is] planted in a pleasant place: but Ephraim shall bring forth his children to the murderer.
Give them, O LORD: what wilt thou give? Give them a miscarrying womb and dry breasts.
The inability to conceive and have children is a curse, whether it be from family generations who had the same problems, or whether it be from a physical problem that began with you and is the first in your generation. Either way it is not a blessing from the Lord. James 1:17 says,
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variation, nor moving shadow.
The Lord wants you to have good gifts and His abundant blessing. Anything less than that is a curse and should be swiftly removed.
I have heard people who say such absurd things as,
“Tanya must be really special to the Lord, because He has considered her worthy enough to take care of that Downe’s Syndrome baby.”
This is nonsense and a lie from Satan. You can expect to conceive, expect a healthy pregnant, and finally expect an uncomplicated birth. Anything less than that is not the Lord’s best for you and you can reject it.
When Abraham traveled through Egypt with Sarah he told her to pose as his sister because he was afraid that they would kill him because of her. Then Abimelech, the King, took her as his wife.
He thought that she was Abraham’s sister, and he took her and brought her into his palace. He was unaware of the full story, but the Lord rebuked him in a dream and told him that his actions were sinful because she was in fact married.
Do you know what happened? Every one of Abimelech’s household and his maidservants became infertile. It brought a curse into his home. In Genesis 20:17 it tells how Abraham had to rectify it. It says,
So Abraham prayed to God: and God healed Abimelech, and his wife, and his maidservants; and they bore [children].
Possible Causes of Curse
I want to share here some possible causes of being under a curse that is preventing a pregnancy, because it is very relevant.
As you consider the different possibilities that I share here, ask the Lord to give you revelation so that you can remove the causes. Once this has taken place it will be easy to remedy the problem.
The Occult Link
Involvement in the occult is probably one of the greatest causes of pregnancy problems, because it opens the door straight away for the enemy to come into your life. Possible areas of involvement could include playing the ouija board, going to a fortune teller ‘just for fun’ or reading horoscopes, also even just for fun.
Any dabbling in these areas is a dangerous move, and could bring about a curse on your ability to have children. I will share shortly how to deal with the effects.
Family Generational Curses
If you are having problems related to pregnancy, take a look around at your family generations and see if there is any possible link in this area. The most obvious is your mother having had problems herself, but a curse can pass through from aunts and other relatives, too.
I prayed for a lady once who had three or four aunts in her family who were all sterile. Her mother however did not have any problems herself, so keep an eye out for that, too. This one can be subtle because it is not so obvious.
Negative Words and Associations
My husband Les shares in his Way of Blessing book about the power of words and positive speech. However, just as words can be powerful in the positive sense, they can be just as powerful in the negative sense, too.
You need to consider firstly if you have spoken a curse against yourself, even inadvertently. If you have said anything negative about having children, even while you were younger and in a rash of anger, your body listens and is very obedient.
I remember hearing of someone once who, when they were in their teens said,
“I’m never going to have children when I’m older.”
They may have just been irritated at the time, but those words would have created a negative effect on their body and done just that – stopped them from having children.
You need to ask the Lord for revelation in this area, because often it is hidden and is not totally obvious. But the Lord will bring to your memory the source of any self-imposed curse so that you can remove it and have the victory.
Negative words from others are just as powerful. And once again you need revelation from the Lord concerning this.
Look also for associations that were not a blessing. Break links with all people that you may have been associated with in the past, such as ex boyfriends.
You need to do this continually with everyone you come into contact with, because even if they seem so wonderful and wouldn’t harm a fly, there is often a contamination or other negative influence in their spirit. They could have been under oppression and not walking in blessing and it will have passed onto you.
What You Can Do
Having said all that I have, what can you do to avert the curse and bring blessing? Here are a few things to consider.
Submit and Resist
The first area of attack is to remove any possible curses, because once this has happened, the blessing will naturally begin to take place.
Do what I have shared above and ask the Lord for any personal involvement in the occult, family generational curses or negative words that would have produced a contamination. Then apply James 4:17.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
This is always a good starting point, because you are putting the Lord first and resisting the enemy’s involvement in your life. According to the Word he has to flee from you.
Ask the Lord to forgive you for any involvement in the occult or any negative words that you spoke against yourself. Then break family generational curses and bondages and close the door to Satan.
You need to do this out loud so that your words are heard. Do not do it in your mind for it is useless. Satan cannot read your mind.
Also, this is very important. If you have identified a family generational curse, you need to be diligent to break it on a daily basis. Unfortunately the elements of that curse are there and remain through the family generations. But you can produce victory by daily standing against it and renouncing it.
The Lord showed us that it is like weeds in a garden. If you attack them daily and remove any that appear on a daily basis you can remain weed-free continually. However, if you leave them for just a week you have a big job to sort out on your hands.
It is not difficult to renounce the curse on a daily basis. It just needs to become a habit, so try and work on it and be aware of it, and you should see things change drastically in your life.
As I shared above, the Lord wants you to be blessed, but He will never impose His desires on you. He will give you what you want, according to your faith. This is very important when you praying for a child and it can be really exciting to put it into practice.
When Les and I wanted to have our son John, we were driving home from a family outing one day and we began to talk about the possibility of having a baby. As we spoke, the whole family began to get involved. We started sharing about what we wanted him to be like and we ‘ordered’ him.
We asked the Lord for a son, and then after sharing with each other we ordered him specifically, including his physical features and personality. I want you to know that he is just what we asked the Lord for.
You need to get excited about your new baby. You and your husband should sit down and share as we did.
Do you know what is happening when you do this? You are exercising your hope, because you are getting excited and seeing what you want. This is what hope is all about. It’s about using all your senses to build up the positive pictures.
Then very important, speak blessing on your bodies. Lay your hands on each other and release blessing on your reproductive systems.
Whether it is a problem with you or your husband, nevertheless you should speak blessing on a continual basis, morning and night. Lay your hands together on your husband and speak blessing on his sperm production.
Lay your hands together on your womb and ovaries and bless them. Speak blessing on your reproductive hormones and everything associated with it.
As you continue to do so your body will begin to respond accordingly. It may take a bit of time before the manifestation of healing and blessing takes place, but I encourage you to continue and persist, because it will indeed occur.
Stand on the Word
Finally, take some promises and speak them out loud and claim that baby. Remember that when you speak the Scriptures out loud you are causing the Lord to move on your behalf, and at the same time you are building up your faith, which comes from hearing the Word. Continue to speak those promises until nothing will move you or phase you from receiving that blessing.
I would like to share my testimony here to encourage you that the Lord is a God of miracles. After this I will pray and release blessing on your behalf, that your heart’s desire may be fulfilled.
The Lord caused Les and I to meet miraculously in October of 1989, and before he left on the night of our first meeting we had a time of prayer. He was pacing up and down praying in tongues and he eventually came over to me and said,
“Do you still desire to have a baby?”
I looked at him and thought,
“How do you know?”
Then I began to cry when he said,
“The Lord showed me you holding a baby in your arms. You will have one.”
I was unsure of how it would take place. I had desired to have a baby for many years, even since my adolescent years, but it never materialized. However, the Lord knew that this was my desire and He put a little glimmer of hope back into me that night.
When Les and I were married a few months later we spoke at length about the possibility of us having a child even though he already had three daughters. I thought it would take place immediately, but I tried unsuccessfully for almost a year to fall pregnant.
About a month before our first anniversary it was suggested that I go and visit a gynaecologist to have a checkup and find out if there were any problems. As I shared at the beginning, I was pretty terrified of the whole idea, so I sought the Lord earnestly in prayer as an easier solution.
We sensed that there was somehow a blockage that was preventing a pregnancy from taking place. So armed with this knowledge, I found a promise that I could claim and stood fervently on it. It was the Scripture from Mark 11:23 which says,
For assuredly I say to you, that whoever shall say to this mountain, Be removed, and be cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things that he says shall come to pass; he shall have whatever he says.
There was a ‘mountain’ of blockage preventing me from falling pregnant. I was determined to trust the Lord for healing of my body so that it would become a possibility.
I stood on that promise and spoke it 100 times. Each time I told the blockage to move away and I ‘saw’ myself pregnant. There was a tremendous assurance and peace when I was finished, and I continued with my life as usual.
A few weeks later we were having a prayer meeting, and funnily enough I was praying for a lady to fall pregnant. There was some recreation needed, but my faith was riding high that night, and I really sought the Lord to bless her with this desire.
When I was finished I had a vision of Les laying hands on me and praying. So when the meeting was over I shared what I had seen and asked him to pray for me.
I sat at his feet and he laid hands on me. He prayed in tongues, and immediately he saw a vision of my ovary. It was as though he was inside it and went for a ride down my fallopian tube.
About half way down he saw a kink in the tube, and it was closed so that no ovum could pass through to be fertilized. He spoke to that fallopian tube and commanded that it open up.
Two weeks later I began to feel off color and very hot. It was then that I discovered that my little bundle of joy was beginning to form in me. I was pregnant.
This experience has helped me to develop a greater faith for people to fall pregnant. Since this time the Lord has allowed me to pray for a number of people in this regard.
All the people I prayed for had had miscarriages or were not able to fall pregnant. The one lady now has twins, and another one was told that she would never conceive because she had cervical cancer and they wanted to remove everything. The Lord healed that cancer and she now has three children.
Prayer for Release
In conclusion I want to encourage you now to trust the Lord to move on your behalf. He is no respecter of persons. What He did me for me He will gladly do for you if you reach out in faith and expect Him to bless you with a baby.
If you have put into action what I have shared with you above, I believe that the Lord will begin to move mightily on your behalf.
I am going to pray now and release the blessing of the Lord on you, and trust that as you stand in faith with me, your heart’s desire will be fulfilled.
“Lord I bring my sister to you now in Jesus’ name. Lord, you are the giver of every good and perfect gift, and children are a heritage and a blessing from you. I stand in agreement and Satan I command you to take your hands off her now.
I command that every family generational curse and bondage be broken and rendered null and void. I command that every negative association would be broken and its influence removed.
I speak against every negative word that may have been spoken against her and which has brought a curse into the camp. I render it null and void now and counter it with blessing.
Now Lord, I release your blessing into her body. You reproductive organs, you are blessed in the name of Jesus. I speak blessing on both partners now and on every organ involved in producing children.
I speak blessing on the pituitary gland. I order you to give the right instructions and for your body to respond accordingly for maximum health.
I command every spirit of theft, strife and destruction to be removed, and a spirit of blessing, restoration and peace to be upon each person.
I call you the blessed of the Lord. I call your heart’s desire fulfilled now, and declare that she who was called barren shall now be called blessed of the Lord and pregnant. I declare that you shall conceive and the pregnancy will be blessed. What is brought forth will be fearfully and wonderfully made – whole, healthy and strong. Amen.”